I don't know about you, but though I platonically love all my students, I am sick
and tired of seeing the same females talking about how sick and tired
of not being treated right and being under appreciated in their
relationship. Therefore, I wrote this in response to one of my
friends, who like we all at some point or another, experience
relationship drama.
There is a key scripture which will
help us to not be truly hurt in relationships and here it is,
Matthew 7.6: “Do not give what is
holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will
trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
This scripture talks about not giving
something precious and valuable to a creature who will not appreciate
it. So if you are trying to be a holy child of God, then you are a
jewel or pearl to the world and to God and His people. Therefore, you
have to make sure that you don't give yourself emotionally or
physically, in relationship to dogs (typically horny bad guys) or
pigs (greedy and self-serving females), who will only take advantage
of you, use you, hurt you, break you, and/or not appreciate you.
Ladies if you consider your goodies to truly be that 'good' then stop
giving it up to dogs. Boys if you've worked hard for what you have
then stop spending it on gold-diggers. We all sadly do this often,
because we don't get ourselves in the position God wants us to be in,
forfeiting the fact that you CAN have people in your lives who will
treat you wonderfully and value you as the godly treasures that you
are.
This pain we experience should push us
to act and leads us into our next scripture reminding us to ask,
seek, and knock.
Matthew 7.7: “[a]Ask, and it will be
given to you; [b]seek, and you will find; [c]knock, and it will be
opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks
finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or what man is
there among you [d]who, when his son asks for a loaf, [e]will give
him a stone? 10 Or [f]if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a
snake, will he? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good
gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in
heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!
We have to ask for godly, righteous,
and/or good people to enter our lives, and of course must ask Him to
help us be that type of person ourselves. We need to seek God, and
He will arrange those people and things to be in our lives, so that
we will indeed live that abundant life He desires for us.
John 10.10: The thief comes only to
steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have
it abundantly.
Then, finally, we are to knock or take
action when we arrive on the doorstep of our blessing so that we can
move/enter into that place of blessing/claim it. We have got to be
careful and not let
our blessing just look us in the face
and be too afraid to take that step. That is truly the tragedy of
the ages, to have the opportunity to grasp your blessing just before
you and for some reason, likely fear, somehow pass it up. This last
step of claiming and stepping into our blessing, is the final stage,
because it is that journey of prayer (asking God), and living the
righteous life (seeking God), which prepares us to then receive the
blessing of God in RIGHTEOUSNESS. For we have to understand that the
Bible is indeed a double-edged sword, it not only cuts when you slash
at your enemy, but can also cut you as well. Therefore, God brings
you through that process to ensure that you are NOT A DOG OR A SWINE
YOURSELF, because God cannot break His own Word. HE WILL NOT GIVE
YOU PEARLS OR THAT WHICH IS HOLY IF YOU YOURSELF ARE NOT RIGHT WITH
HIM!!! So make sure that you think about that next time that you want
to claim that God isn't listening to your prayers. You probably
aren't ready, because in all honesty, since no one is perfect, we
never will fully and/or truly be.
Getting back to the topic, if WE can
Ask, Seek, and Knock, and not cast ourselves (His blessings) before
the dogs and swine of this world, then we have arrived. Let me assure
you, nay, let me allow His word to assure you that it is arduous,
tough, and harrowing, but very much worth it.
John 16.33: “I have told you these
things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have
trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Let's take some time to ponder the
reality of many of our bad decisions in life, and their utter and
complete foolishness. Literally, I will wait... Now, after you read
the next question, take a moment to again, really analyze the
decisions you are making and the results they yield. Which is worse
to suffer at the hands and/or will of the devil and/or evil/bad
people, only to receive heartache and sorrow in the end; or is it
instead better to labor for the Lord and have that pleasant 'growing
pain' or God ordained suffering, which brings about blessing? Simply
stated, would you rather endure in faith and perseverance, trusting
that God knows best and is disciplining you for your profit and
benefit, or suffer through someone else's selfish and perverted
pleasure only to end with resent and bitterness? You may want to
reread that last one.
Here is what the Word has to say about
godly suffering.
Hebrews 12.5-11: But you have
forgotten that the Scriptures say to God’s children,
“When the Lord punishes you,
don’t make light of it,
and when he corrects you,
don’t be discouraged.
6 The Lord corrects the people
he loves
and disciplines those
he calls his own.”
7 Be patient when you are being
corrected! This is how God treats his children. Don’t all parents
correct their children? 8 God corrects all of his children, and if he
doesn’t correct you, then you don’t really belong to him. 9 Our
earthly fathers correct us, and we still respect them. Isn’t it
even better to be given true life by letting our spiritual Father
correct us?
10 Our human fathers correct us for a
short time, and they do it as they think best. But God corrects us
for our own good, because he wants us to be holy, as he is. 11 It is
never fun to be corrected. In fact, at the time it is always painful.
But if we learn to obey by being corrected, we will do right and live
at peace.
Again, whether you suffer for right or
wrong reasons, it will be tough at the time, but with God, the
results are blessing and with the Devil, the results are the regrets
and disappointments of a pitiful life.
To put a close on the topic of
suffering, consider the following.
Romans 5.3-5: Not only so, but we[c]
also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces
perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And
hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured
out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to
us.
Let me take some time to build upon and
reinforce that previous reference. That scripture refers to the
process or cause and effect relationship in a chain reaction when we
endure godly suffering instead of worldly suffering. The Word says
that as a result of godly suffering we develop perseverance. God then
builds character in us SO LONG as we endure in humility and focus on
the lesson God has for us, not being bitter at our circumstances in
contrast to others, but staying in the creations place and praising
the Creator, our Father, who is helping us and loving us, even during
our growing pains. THAT is how you develop character, by being
faithful and honorable to God even when, NO, ESPECIALLY when times
are tough. Then, at last, the character that we have and live out,
becomes hope. Hope not just that all of our pain was for a greater
good, but hope that we will do as I am now and will bless others with
the knowledge that all pain is not bad. And, moreover, that there is
a godly pain that results not in bitterness, but blessing; there is a
weeping that yields joy, not jadedness; there is a God who loves you
through that pain and sustains you, holding your hand through it all
like a loving Father should and will. Only letting you fall so far,
be cut only so deep, or scratched just enough that you learn, know
and as a result, use that redemption and growth as a testimony for
all who see you and marvel at the transition or the change in your
life all through Him. After all, Solomon said in Proverbs 27.6:
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
God is the greatest and our true “Best Friend Forever”, therefore
give the One we claim as “All-Knowing” the credit He is due.
What is the result of this godly
suffering again? Matthew 5.16: Make your light shine, so that
others will see the good that you do and will praise your Father in
heaven.
Though the answer is simple, many times
we fail to choose the right path and then act surprised when we
knew/know full well where our actions would lead us to eventually.
Don't fall for the hype ladies and gentlemen; God does not want us to
suffer, be upset, sad, or be in pain unnecessarily. Take for
instance John 3:16, many know it, “For God so loved the world that
He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him, shall
not perish but have eternal life.” But not many know
John 3:17-19: For God did not send
his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world
through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever
does not believe stands condemned already because they have not
believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. 19 This is the
verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness
instead of light because their deeds were evil.
In those scriptures following that most
quoted verse, God explains why He allowed that drama in His Son's
life and moreover, shows us just how important we are to Him; how
much He loves us. Verse 17 reassures us that God's desire is to help
and save us from the horrors and pains of this world. GOD MADE THE
WORLD AND EVERYTHING IN IT; HE EVEN MADE THE DEVIL AND ALL HIS CHUMPS
WHO SERVE HIM. Therefore, God knows that drama abounds here. He knows
that there is sorrow, pain, heartache, and disappointment on Earth.
And here, He says EXPLICITLY that He Himself, came to save us from
it. This is almost like Him saying "My bad, this is way too
tough for you; here, let me come down there and help you with that;
let me show you how it's done."
God Himself knows our struggles because
in Christ He became man and was tempted in all ways with hunger,
weakness, anger, lust, greed, jealousy, etc. But again, He overcame
the world and has literally shown us how to do it in the flesh
Himself (Christ's life), provided written instructions (Bible), given
us guides and helpers in many different forms (pastors, teachers,
parents, guardian angels, etc.), and in His sovereignty, even stops
us many times from hurting ourselves in our stupidity/sin, all
because He loves us. Verse 18 and 19 then explain the only reason
that we can be condemned, it is this; that light is come into the
world and people instead choose the darkness over the light because
they love evil or bad things (drama) too much. That is to say, God
has literally done everything that we could ever want or need to
prove to us that there is a better way of life, and that we can live
and operate in love and happiness, joy and peace, blessing and
success, if we would only choose Him over the world, choose the light
over the darkness.
The relevance of choosing light over
darkness to the first scripture about "casting your pearls
before swine" is this. How many times does it take for us to
give our bodies, our minds, our hearts, our time, our gifts, our
money, and our lives to the world, to the evil one with his schemes
and minions, to lust, greed, and sin before we come to our senses?
How many times are we going to get on Facebook, Skype, Twitter, etc.
and complain about how we have been hurt, taken advantage of, broken,
disappointed, trampled upon, stood up, neglected, abused, used and
thrown away; and be left to sulk with nothing but pain, wounds,
tears, and sorrow? How many times are we going to pass up the light
for the darkness and then confirm what God has already told us here
so clearly; the end/fruit/wages of that darkness (SIN) is death, i.e.
that is death to joy, love, our hearts, innocence, peace,
relationships, bodies, etc.), yet the fruit of the spirit (LIGHT) are
love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness and self-control.
Galatians 5.21-22: God’s Spirit
makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, 23
gentle, and self-controlled. There is no law against behaving in any
of these ways.
We hurt ourselves when we choose
darkness over light. But more importantly and sadly, we hurt the
heart of God when we refuse all that He longs to offer us when we
choose drama over love and understanding, sin over righteousness and
self-control, pain over joy and peace.
Though no one in their right mind would
do such a thing, we have to retrain ourselves in the Word (renew your
mind, Romans 12.12) and develop discernment so that we will be able
to tell right from wrong, a poser from a friend, a booby-trap (men
sometimes literally) from a blessing, and a Mr./Ms. “Right now”
from an life-long committed, mutually beneficial investment. The Word
begs that we study to show ourselves approved, so that we can then
rightly divide the Word of truth.
2 Timothy 2.15: Do your best to
present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need
to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.
This simply means that as a result of
reading the Word and by studying the Word, we learn and develop the
gift of discernment and are then able to apply the Word rightly,
knowing when to bless and speak life onto and into godly
relationships and situations, while at the same time learning how to
bind and remove/destroy ungodly spirits and problem areas in our life
which prevent us from living the abundant life we as well as God
desires us to have.
John 10.10: The thief comes only to
steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have
it abundantly.
A short/easy application and example of
this Scripture is where the Word teaches us that we can tell or judge
a tree by the fruit it bears.
Matthew 12.23-25: “Make a tree good
and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be
bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. 34 You brood of vipers,
how can you who are evil say anything good? For the mouth speaks what
the heart is full of. 35 A good man brings good things out of the
good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the
evil stored up in him.
That is to say, a orange tree produces
oranges, apple tree apples, pear tree pears, etc. So then when you
are trying to figure out whether you are dealing with a godly person
or in a godly situation look at the fruit it bears. We know that the
wages of sin is death, Romans 6.23. Notice the plural noun (wages),
though the direct object of that noun (death) seems singular. Please
note, that death comes in many forms, severeties, and can manifest
itself in various areas, so be on guard.
Furthermore, we know that the devil
comes to or bears the following fruit; steal, kill, and destroy,
contrasted against Christ offering abundant life.
John 10.10: The thief comes only to
steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have
it abundantly.
Noting this then, we should understand
that God and His people should do/create or produce opposite fruit.
Therefore, combining all these we understand that the results of
obedience/righteousness is life or that the wages/fruit of God are
giving, creation, and edification. In regards to a relationships...
- If your relationship steals your innocence, peace, health, love, joy, etc., let it go. If it kills your future, success, family ties, faith in God, etc., cut it lose.
- If it destroys your heart, your generosity, hope, passion for God, etc., then move on.
- All these signify that your relationship is of the devil.
On the contrary,
- If your relationship gives you innocence, peace, health, love, joy, etc., help it grow.
- If it brings life to your future, success, family ties, faith in God, etc., strengthen it.
- If it builds your heart, your generosity, hope, passion for God, etc., thank God for it and keep it holy, because these are of God.
Simple! But you have to have studied to
have known the scriptures, so that you can put them together and then
live it out. Study, study, study. David's writing in Psalms, declares
that His delight was in the Word of the Lord and that he read and
meditated on it day and night. This doesn't make him a fanatic or
out of touch with the world, it instead provides the guidance for a
fantastic life and ensures that you stay in touch with God and out of
the reach of the Devil and relationship drama.
Psalms 119.16: I delight in your
decrees; I will not neglect your word.
Psalms 1.2: But his delight is in the
law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night.
Brothers and sisters, in closing, I
desire for us all to be able to, as often as possible, choose the
light over the darkness. To have the wisdom to see things as they
really are, to have the discernment to know right from wrong, to have
the strength to choose the light over the darkness, to have the
patience to endure the transition, and to have the grace to be
thankful and help others do the same. I made the decision to live in
Him in the 10th grade because I was tired of the pain,
disappointment, drama, and sorrow which swarms around the drama of
this world like angry and malicious hornets bickering around a
wounded hive. I hate to be stung, and I would assume that you do too.
I beg and implore you to trust Him the way that I have and always
will, because He loves you and wants the best for you. I am sent
here to testify to you as proof. You reading this proves all that He
has spoken through me: He is alive; He is here; He loves you; He
wants you to be happy; and He is begging you through me right now for
you to turn to Him. Haven't you cried enough? Haven't you been hurt
enough? Haven't you learned that this world has nothing for you but
pain and sorrow at last?
Well if that is the case then read this
aloud, "God You are so true and honest; this world has nothing
for me but hurt and misery, and I don't want any more of those any
longer. I want You. I want Your peace, Your love, Your forgiveness,
Your presence, and most of all I want us to be together in the
greatest relationship, forever in harmony. I accept the gift of your
Son Jesus Christ, and today I choose His light over the darkness of
this world. I need your help so that I no longer cast myself, your
precious and holy pearl, your beloved child before the dogs and swine
of this world. I have in past chosen sin over salvation, but from
this moment forward, I choose you as my God and as my Guide always
and forever, in Jesus' loving and precious name, Amen!"
My friend, there is no greater joy than
the joy you feel right now, knowing and trusting that so long as you
are following Him, that everything, EVERY SINGLE ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE
is safe and guided and protected by Him.
Romans 8.28: And we know that in all
things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been
called according to his purpose.
From this moment on, may His love hold
you, may His peace surround you, may His power strengthen you, and
may the Son dwell in you, that you would indeed have abundant life
now and ever after. My people, I love you; I rejoice in your
decision; and I praise God for your time and your eyes. God bless and
keep in touch.
Let me know about your relationship
journies below.
Peace and blessings,
CEH :-) <><
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